I often read stories where people say their children are their reason for living or surviving terrible hardships.  So, what about those of us who don’t have biological children? You can’t just default to this answer. And for me, it makes me want to dig deeper to find an answer that resonates in my heart. I’m always reading new books on how to find meaning in your life.  My latest read, “Man’s Search for Meaning”,  which I acquired free through BookMooch.com is quite fascinating. It’s written by a psychiatrist, Viktor E. Frankl, who survived the Nazi death camps. I wanted to share a short passage on page 135 about The Meaning of Suffering. Here it is:

We must never forget that we may also find meaning in life even when confronted with a hopeless situation, when facing a fate that cannot be changed. For what then matters is to bear witness to the uniquely human potential at its best, which is to transform a personal tragedy into a triumph, to turn one’s predicament into a human achievement. When we are no longer able to change a situation - just think of an incurable disease such as inoperable cancer (personal thought: Or for many us unexplained infertility) - we are challenged to challenge ourselves.

This is the beginning of several very intriguing pages. If you like to read this type of literature, I’d recommend giving this one a chance. I skipped past the personal stories from the camp itself as I don’t have the stomach for it but gravitated to what he built from this experience. To view a preview on Google Books, click here. To read reviews or purchase the book, click here.

The next Indy Resolve dinner out will be Wednesday, February 18th at 6:30 pm at the Bravo’s close to 86th and Township.  Please email indyresolve@yahoo.com to RSVP.  We hope you can make it!

I started looking for some infertility type blogs to list in our blogroll and boy did I find a lot. I soon realized though, that a lot of the women writing are now pregnant. I didn’t want to list these blogs in the blogroll, but I started reading some of them and really started to feel inspired. If these women who struggled with infertility for years are now pregnant or already have a baby, then maybe I will too some day. It’s really hard to stay optimistic some times. I am sure you know what I mean.

Anyway, I wanted to list some of these blogs in case you might be interested in reading them. But be warned, all of them are now about pregnancy or parenting.

a little pregnant
madcap misadventures in infertility, pregnancy, and parenthood

Desperately Seeking Baby
My thoughts on raising twins after infertility.

Desperately Seeking Spawn
One couple’s journey through life, marriage, infertility, and hopefully, pregnancy, and baby!!

Empty Womb Syndrome

Finding Motherhood
PCOS and Hashimoto’s…but determined to not give up.

The Follie Files
Join me on my journey through the maze of treatments I’m headed for, again. It will be a grand old time - promise!

I Believe in Miracles
our journey to become parents: marked with potholes, but filled with God’s grace

Infertility Licks!
The big bad-ass land of infertility was my playground. After 4+ years of ttc and countless failed cycles of ART, we switched to adoption and got the FASTEST placement ever and now I’m a mom!!

it could take 3 months
“It could take 3 months,” advised a friend’s husband who obviously knows alot about baby making. It took 23 months. Now with baby.

Joys In My Life
Zen and the Art of Secondary Infertility - HAS MUSIC!

Life In a Holding Pattern
After waiting for just the “right” moment and after mapping-out what we thought were the most “important” aspects of our married life, we decided it was the perfect time to add a baby to our family! But…that’s when things became a bit more complicated than we had anticipated. So now we’re living…Life In a Holding Pattern.

Maybe If You Just Relax
Adventures in Infertility and Moron Management. And Pregnancy!

Musings of a Barren-ess
A place to vent my frustrations on my struggle with infertility and determination to have a child.

Not like I thought it would be
Trying to start a family has been nothing like I expected. This is my infertility/adoption blog. **Now with added baby**

of course you’ll get pregnant!
Get pregnant. See heartbeat. Tell everyone. Miscarry. Get angry. Bitter. Bitter. Still bitter. Fertility testing. PCOS. Treatment. Pregnant. Hold breath… hold breath… hold breath… and exhale. Finally a mommy, minus my innocence. I am so lucky. It’s not always fun, but it is entertaining… to my readers. Any resemblance to good advice, living or dead, is purely coincidental. Welcome to the dream factory.

Serenity Now!
The search for Serenity after years of infertility and now new parenthood.

Someone PLEASE, knock me up!
husband…RE…santa claus…easter bunny…anyone…help…please

Taking the Statistical Bullet
After Taking The Hit So Many Times, We Finally Dodged the Bullet . . . And We’re Forever Grateful. This is a story about parenting after unexplained recurrent pregnancy loss.

Trying for Baby…And Got Two!
My journey from infertility to raising twins

We know there are a lot of women in Indianapolis struggling to have a baby.  There wouldn’t be so many fertility clinics here if there weren’t.  But it does not seem like very many people know about this group, and we want to help as many people as possible.  So if you know of a fertility clinic, women’s group, therapist’s office or community board where we can place our flyer, please let us know. 

Also, feel free to post the flyer yourself!

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Three members of Indy Resolve had dinner at the Melting Pot’s Ladies Night Out last night and had a great time!  We got to know each other better and discussed where we are at with our fertility treatments.  We will definitely do this again, probably once a month.  If you are interested in attending, please let us know!  You do NOT have to attend the support group meetings to join us.  If all you need is a relaxing night out with someone who understands what you are going through, please come!

We do not have specific plans for February yet, but Bravo in Castleton was mentioned as a location.

UPDATE: The next dinner out will be Wednesday, February 18th at 6:30 at Bravo’s close to 86th and Township.  Please email indyresolve@yahoo.com to RSVP!