I’ve struggled with when/what/how much to tell our families about our fertility struggle. We didn’t get a great response from my husband’s parents, so I’ve been procrastinating talking to mine, even though my friends have been encouraging me to do so. I guess I have two concerns. One is all on my end, and that’s admitting that we really, truly do have a problem and that yes, we might never be able to have biological children. The second issue is what they will say and will it be helpful. I’ve read a few “guides” about what to tell your family and friends so they might be better able to help you. Below I’ve listed some of the best ones. Maybe one of them will help you talk to your family. And if you have any tips or things to add, please post in the comments!
How do I Deal with Family and Friends?
Learning About Infertility: For Family and Friends
(and several sub-pages; see the left navigation)
Things I Wish I Could Tell People About Grieving Infertility
What We Wish You Knew: Supporting Loved Ones in Infertility
And the best one – a music video!
http://lifebalanceinfertilitycoach.wordpress.com/2009/01/31/share-this-great-clip-with-your-friends-and-family/#comment-449
Here’s something I’d like to add: Instead of telling us what to do, how about just telling us to keep trying, it will all be worth it in the end, and yes, we will be parents some day. I could use a little positive thinking instead of being told what I am doing wrong. There is no right or wrong; my husband and I are the only ones who get to decide what we do or don’t do. We don’t need your judgement, but we do need support and encouragement.
