Lately I’ve been feeling like my life has been taken over by infertility – the appointments, the information, the decisions, the questions, the support, etc. While all good and important on the journey, I’m starting to feel like I’m stuck on a merry-go-round and it keeps getting faster and faster and I forgot to think about when I want to get off. I read a really interesting archived post at EggsBenedictArnold.com  that I thought I’d share today:

“I’m losing faith, feeling like I should stop the madness. I’m beginning to succumb to the finality of infertility. I actually considered what life would be like living childfree. In the world of infertility there are categories of resolution. We have (a) success, (b) success by other means (donor egg/sperm, surrogacy, adoption) and (c) childfree. I’d love success, am considering success by other means and until now simply banished the thought of living childfree. I never thought I’d feel living childfree would be less painful than infertility, until today. Today, on the way to work, I thought- I could live childfree. We’d travel, have a nice house maybe even a summer beach place. I surprised myself. I was happy picturing life without children. It felt luxurious. I’ve heard some people say that it’s time to stop pursuing infertility treatment when the pain becomes worse than the need/want for a child. We’re getting close to that line folks. Hopefully the break I take this summer will lure me back to the warm fuzzies of family planning.”

Actually this woman goes on to adopt a little girl and really has some great insights on her ongoing journey. If you’d like to read the rest of this particular post, click here.

Ultimately no one else knows what is best for you but you. Don’t ever forget that.