Comments on: Multiple IUIs vs. Straight to IVF http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/ Resolving to help local women on their fertility journey Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:01:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: lalee http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-1032 lalee Sat, 26 Sep 2009 04:02:29 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-1032 Does anyone have any experience with embryo donation? We are open to considering all possibilities at this point but we have not heard much about it. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Does anyone have any experience with embryo donation? We are open to considering all possibilities at this point but we have not heard much about it. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

]]> By: Lily http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-1031 Lily Sat, 26 Sep 2009 02:19:22 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-1031 We all so understand. And sometimes the changes are not what you expect but it doesn't mean that can't still be wonderful. However, it takes time, and sometimes a lot of time to even be open to that possibility. I should know. ;) I wish you comfort on the bad days and relishing the good ones. We all so understand. And sometimes the changes are not what you expect but it doesn’t mean that can’t still be wonderful. However, it takes time, and sometimes a lot of time to even be open to that possibility. I should know. ;) I wish you comfort on the bad days and relishing the good ones.

]]> By: lalee http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-1030 lalee Sat, 26 Sep 2009 00:57:33 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-1030 Thanks, Lily. We have been doing just that, grieving and being together. we do have a wonderful support system, but as you know, this disappointment and sadness is profound. Unfortunately, I have a hard time seeing that this is a temporary place we're at...I'm soon to be 42, and I know that time makes a difference at my age. I do know that things can change, but I'm so afraid that they need to change quicker than they most likely will. I'm trying to stay positive, but some days are better for that than others.... I do appreciate your messages, Lily. It is helpful to know others understand. Thanks, Lily. We have been doing just that, grieving and being together. we do have a wonderful support system, but as you know, this disappointment and sadness is profound.
Unfortunately, I have a hard time seeing that this is a temporary place we’re at…I’m soon to be 42, and I know that time makes a difference at my age.
I do know that things can change, but I’m so afraid that they need to change quicker than they most likely will. I’m trying to stay positive, but some days are better for that than others….
I do appreciate your messages, Lily. It is helpful to know others understand.

]]> By: Lily http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-997 Lily Thu, 17 Sep 2009 19:01:36 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-997 Lalee - I am so sorry. I know how painful it is to feel like the options have been taken out of your hands. Give yourself time to grieve this moment. And, just remember, this may be the situation now, but situations can change. You never know where you might end up down the road. I hope you are surrounded by people who love and support you. Lalee – I am so sorry. I know how painful it is to feel like the options have been taken out of your hands. Give yourself time to grieve this moment. And, just remember, this may be the situation now, but situations can change. You never know where you might end up down the road. I hope you are surrounded by people who love and support you.

]]> By: lalee http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-994 lalee Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:39:58 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-994 Hcg (-). Cannot afford another donor for eggs. So unfortunately, we are already done. I think only those of you here might know how I feel right now. Hcg (-). Cannot afford another donor for eggs. So unfortunately, we are already done. I think only those of you here might know how I feel right now.

]]> By: Lily http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-982 Lily Fri, 11 Sep 2009 12:37:20 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-982 We only meet once a month so seriously consider coming. We all know it's hard to come, not really wanting to admit to having this issue. But what you'll find is a group of nice women who are like you, have been in your situation and feel like you do. It won't solve your problems but you'll feel less alone and likely get some strength to take on another day of your journey. Here is the meeting information: Monday, Sept. 14th from 6:30 - 8:30 pm Every 2nd Monday of the month - Rm. e104 100 W. 86th Street - north side of Indy Plenty of free parking Upon entering the church you will see the large stained glass artwork. Walk towards it then go up the first hallway on your right. The room e104 is at the corner of the hallway. And here's a quote on the topic of peace that I love: "Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there in no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart." - Unknown We only meet once a month so seriously consider coming. We all know it’s hard to come, not really wanting to admit to having this issue. But what you’ll find is a group of nice women who are like you, have been in your situation and feel like you do. It won’t solve your problems but you’ll feel less alone and likely get some strength to take on another day of your journey.

Here is the meeting information:

Monday, Sept. 14th from 6:30 – 8:30 pm
Every 2nd Monday of the month – Rm. e104
100 W. 86th Street – north side of Indy
Plenty of free parking

Upon entering the church you will see the large stained glass artwork. Walk towards it then go up the first hallway on your right. The room e104 is at the corner of the hallway.

And here’s a quote on the topic of peace that I love:

“Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there in no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.” – Unknown

]]> By: lalee http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-981 lalee Fri, 11 Sep 2009 05:12:33 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-981 Can you tell me where you're meeting? I don't know if I can make it or not, but would love to talk with others. Our one embryo that we had placed looked good, they said. I'm now in the position of waiting until next week to get by blood work drawn. I've done fairly well, until today; today am weepy and basically begging God for this one child. If this doesn't work, we cannot try again--we are tapped out financially. I thank you for your reply; it is helpful to hear from people who really "GET" what I'm saying. It is so frustrating to know that we could have ivf in other countries for much cheaper with roughly the same success rates. I feel it is rather exploitative how ART is priced in this country, so that only adds to my frustrations. I'm focusing on staying healthy, praying, and being at peace. Thanks again for your post, Lily. Can you tell me where you’re meeting? I don’t know if I can make it or not, but would love to talk with others.
Our one embryo that we had placed looked good, they said. I’m now in the position of waiting until next week to get by blood work drawn. I’ve done fairly well, until today; today am weepy and basically begging God for this one child.
If this doesn’t work, we cannot try again–we are tapped out financially. I thank you for your reply; it is helpful to hear from people who really “GET” what I’m saying.

It is so frustrating to know that we could have ivf in other countries for much cheaper with roughly the same success rates. I feel it is rather exploitative how ART is priced in this country, so that only adds to my frustrations.

I’m focusing on staying healthy, praying, and being at peace. Thanks again for your post, Lily.

]]> By: Lily http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-976 Lily Tue, 08 Sep 2009 21:40:47 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-976 Lalee - this journey is hard. Incredibly hard on so many levels. Maybe consider taking a break and re-grouping before trying again or at all. I also highly recommend The Cabin Counseling Center in Zionsville (see Resources page) to help you work through the right path for you. We wish you comfort and know that you are not alone. We are meeting next Monday if you'd like to join us - it's always reassuring to be around other women who have been in your situation. Lalee – this journey is hard. Incredibly hard on so many levels. Maybe consider taking a break and re-grouping before trying again or at all. I also highly recommend The Cabin Counseling Center in Zionsville (see Resources page) to help you work through the right path for you. We wish you comfort and know that you are not alone. We are meeting next Monday if you’d like to join us – it’s always reassuring to be around other women who have been in your situation.

]]> By: lalee http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-969 lalee Fri, 04 Sep 2009 07:29:05 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-969 I am completely deflated by our infertility treatments thus far. I do not feel that we got full disclosure of all the facts. We are now over 27k dollars into this, in debt (we weren't before all of this), and after our retrieval of 12 donor eggs, only one has fertilized. The people in the office tell me I can try again; they think I'm joking when we can only try again if I sell a kidney. I try to tell myself that God is with me in this, and give it up to God, but I'm actually terrified that this won't work. Any words of wisdom would be helpful. I am completely deflated by our infertility treatments thus far. I do not feel that we got full disclosure of all the facts. We are now over 27k dollars into this, in debt (we weren’t before all of this), and after our retrieval of 12 donor eggs, only one has fertilized. The people in the office tell me I can try again; they think I’m joking when we can only try again if I sell a kidney. I try to tell myself that God is with me in this, and give it up to God, but I’m actually terrified that this won’t work. Any words of wisdom would be helpful.

]]> By: Allison http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/06/24/multiple-iui-ivf/comment-page-1/#comment-929 Allison Sun, 16 Aug 2009 18:20:53 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=178#comment-929 My husband I and were unlucky enough to both be infertile, so we had to go straight to IVF. I felt very fortunate though after attending so many resolve meetings and hearing of so many other women who had gone through too many injectable cycles and were too deflated to try IVF. I felt like I too would have wasted a lot of energy and money on IUIs if that had been an option. In our case our 'fresh' cycle didn't work, but a frozen cycle did--(so don't rely on the statistics too much!) We ended up with B/G twins. My husband I and were unlucky enough to both be infertile, so we had to go straight to IVF. I felt very fortunate though after attending so many resolve meetings and hearing of so many other women who had gone through too many injectable cycles and were too deflated to try IVF. I felt like I too would have wasted a lot of energy and money on IUIs if that had been an option. In our case our ‘fresh’ cycle didn’t work, but a frozen cycle did–(so don’t rely on the statistics too much!) We ended up with B/G twins.

]]>