Comments on: A nod to infertility in Julie & Julia…. http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/08/25/a-nod-to-infertility-in-julie-julia/ Resolving to help local women on their fertility journey Tue, 08 Dec 2009 00:01:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lily http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/08/25/a-nod-to-infertility-in-julie-julia/comment-page-1/#comment-983 Lily Fri, 11 Sep 2009 12:45:43 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=217#comment-983 Just being around other women who are in your situation really helps you feel less alone. I also highly recommend The Cabin Counseling Center in Zionsville (see Resources page) to help you work through this situation. You need to have a strong support system in place to help you shoulder this load. I can say from personal experience that not telling anyone and carrying it all inside, which included a miscarriage, was way more detrimental than telling anyone. And my health, my marriage and my outlook on everything greatly suffered for it. I'll never do that again. But, I know that's easier said than done. Try the meeting and maybe that will be a small step towards something positive for you. Hang in there! Just being around other women who are in your situation really helps you feel less alone. I also highly recommend The Cabin Counseling Center in Zionsville (see Resources page) to help you work through this situation. You need to have a strong support system in place to help you shoulder this load. I can say from personal experience that not telling anyone and carrying it all inside, which included a miscarriage, was way more detrimental than telling anyone. And my health, my marriage and my outlook on everything greatly suffered for it. I’ll never do that again. But, I know that’s easier said than done. Try the meeting and maybe that will be a small step towards something positive for you. Hang in there!

]]> By: TTCinIndy http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/08/25/a-nod-to-infertility-in-julie-julia/comment-page-1/#comment-980 TTCinIndy Fri, 11 Sep 2009 01:46:20 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=217#comment-980 Thanks Lily for responding. I hope to meet some folks at the next meeting. I'm feeling a bit isolated right now since we are not planning to tell people until/unless we conceive. Thanks Lily for responding. I hope to meet some folks at the next meeting. I’m feeling a bit isolated right now since we are not planning to tell people until/unless we conceive.

]]> By: Lily http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/08/25/a-nod-to-infertility-in-julie-julia/comment-page-1/#comment-960 Lily Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:11:46 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=217#comment-960 I am sorry that your friend said something so hurtful to you. We often say things without ever deeply thinking about how hurtful it could be to someone else. Maybe at some point you could be honest with her or at least point out that her statement is not true. In the meantime, consider keeping your distance. I really have to be aware of who I spend my time around now and be protective of this sensitivity. Always take care of yourself first and surround yourself with love and support! I am sorry that your friend said something so hurtful to you. We often say things without ever deeply thinking about how hurtful it could be to someone else. Maybe at some point you could be honest with her or at least point out that her statement is not true. In the meantime, consider keeping your distance. I really have to be aware of who I spend my time around now and be protective of this sensitivity. Always take care of yourself first and surround yourself with love and support!

]]> By: TTCinIndy http://blog.indyresolve.org/2009/08/25/a-nod-to-infertility-in-julie-julia/comment-page-1/#comment-956 TTCinIndy Fri, 28 Aug 2009 04:02:32 +0000 http://blog.indyresolve.org/?p=217#comment-956 I appreciated that part in the movie too. The other night when I was battling insomnia, I flipped channels and came across "Raising Arizona" which I had seen and thought was really funny back in college. Now, not so much. It's just too close to home. We have some friends who are fostering to adopt. They do not know we are TTC. She said to me the other day, "Anyone can have a baby. It's not like I can't have a baby. I could have one if I wanted to. What we're doing, now that takes effort, dealing with their special needs. Giving a child a second chance at a good life..." I was pretty pissed about it, but she doesn't even know how deeply she hurt me. Not sure how to deal with that. I appreciated that part in the movie too. The other night when I was battling insomnia, I flipped channels and came across “Raising Arizona” which I had seen and thought was really funny back in college. Now, not so much. It’s just too close to home.

We have some friends who are fostering to adopt. They do not know we are TTC. She said to me the other day, “Anyone can have a baby. It’s not like I can’t have a baby. I could have one if I wanted to. What we’re doing, now that takes effort, dealing with their special needs. Giving a child a second chance at a good life…”

I was pretty pissed about it, but she doesn’t even know how deeply she hurt me. Not sure how to deal with that.

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