I always find it intriguing how we might always have the same desire – to be pregnant and have a baby – but each of our stories has its own unique perspective. I happened upon this article in the New York Times about secondary infertility. It really surprised me how much this woman’s feelings are like my own even though she already has 2 children. In my mind I assume that if I ever have one baby that it will feel like enough – more than enough, right? Apparently that could be a big wrong. Now thinking back, I’ve heard stories about the desire to have children not ending after one child and actually intensified for wanting another. It has made me stop and think – even if, as usual, there are no good answers just another layer of emotional turmoil to add to this journey. Anyway, thought some of you out there might also appreciate another perspective on this journey:
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/04/30/the-guilt-of-secondary-infertility/
I’ve always thought that it might be even harder to have secondary infertility. Back before I started trying, I had this vision about having 2 kids about 2 years apart, so they’d be close in age. Once you’ve had the first child, I’d think that gives you a very loud ticking clock.
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